Monthly Archives: February 2010

Taking the Weekend Off

Taking the Weekend Off

We woke up this morning and flew to Campinas, the city where Helena was born, in the state of Sao Paulo. We´ll drive 6 hours tonight with her brother Marcelo to attend a family wedding in the country. I`ve brought my videocam with me, so expect some fun Brazilian wedding shots on Monday night when we get back to Rio!  I´ll be away from internet access until then, but promise some good stories when we get back.

I think one of our first signs came this morning. As I was walking Zuca around the neighborhood, I started talking to a woman and her dog;  first in my infant-like Portuguese, and then in English. She spoke English with a perfect American accent, and as we talked, she told me that she and her husband lived in DC for many years. I told her that I also worked in DC in public education reform, and she asked me what we planned to do in Brazil. I told her about the concept for our NGO, and she shared that she and her husband work on environmental issues specifically related to urban planning! I told her that we were interested in starting urban community gardens, and she immediately offered to put me in touch with her husband who works directly with the Prefeitura (city government).

What are the chances? I guess the best I can do is keep putting it out there, and just wait and see what comes back.

Just in case it hasn´t come across yet, I am really, really, really happy.  I slept all night last night and the night before last for the first time in 2 months. It was a deep, peaceful, dreamless sleep without a blanket or sheet to cover me.  Just warm, tropical breezes and a slow, sleepy brain.

Terra Nova

Terra Nova

The first 30 days of this blog were dedicated to catching you up on how we emotionally got to where we are, so I never quite got around to telling you some of the finer details about where we’re living and what we’re going to be “doing” while we’re here.  Very Brazilian of me!

[Cross-cultural side note:  when you go to an American cocktail party and you first meet someone, what's the first thing you're usually asked?  Often:  "What do you DO?"  In Brazil, it's rare that people discuss occupation. Rather, they'll ask questions like, "Where are you from?  Do you have family in the area?  Where do they live?"  The interest seems, instead, to be about establishing a sense of commonality.]

If you look back at my first entry (“Where it Began”), you’ll see that one of our main motives for making this move was purely environmental–we were so OVER the snow and rain of the northeast coast.  Another incentive (captured in “Raw Spirit”) had to do with wanting to live somewhere that would be supportive of our lifestyle as raw foodists. Our excitement over raw food inspired us to create a small business devoted to sharing what we’ve learned with others.

So when our friend Tiana, the chef and owner of Rio de Janeiro’s only raw food restaurant, told us that she needed help with launching and promoting her restaurant’s second location, it opened up interesting new possibilities for us. Helena and I agreed that weren’t necessarily interested in the day-to-day running of a restaurant, but we were excited about teaching workshops and organizing conferences about raw food, something we’d been doing on a part-time basis at home.

We made our first trip to Universo Organico‘s new location in Shopping da Gavea late last night.  The new location opened last week, and when we were at the restaurant for lunch again this afternoon, every table was filled. Pretty exciting:

As we were thinking about what we might DO in Brazil, we concentrated on what we enjoy and what we know.  My professional background has been in the non-profit world, primarily in education reform, so I began thinking about how I might put some of those skills to use if we were to provide support to Tiana.  I’ve always admired the work of Alice Waters and the Chez Panisse Foundation and Judy Wicks of Philadelphia-based White Dog Cafe Foundation. Their activism around ensuring quality food production and support of local farmers is truly inspiring. 

Tiana is committed to working with local organic farms from the mountains around Rio to provide the food for her restaurant, so it seemed natural that we might consider developing an NGO/non-profit with a mission similar to that of Alice Waters and Judy Wicks. In exchange for our ideas and labor, Tiana has offered us a place to live until our 7-cubic meter container shows up at the port. Here’s a quick view of Tiana’s apartment in Copacabana:

An honorable mention for our dog-loving friends:  Zuca has a new best friend! Tiana and her girlfriend Iracema have a 5-month old dog named Luz, and Zuca and Luz have become immediate buddies.  They’ve known each other for a little more than 24 hours and spend most of their time chewing on each others’ ears or curled up together in a corner somewhere, just enjoying being together. Here they are, just back from a run on the beach:

So the reality is that we’re open to allowing the “Universe” to show us what we’re meant to do.  In the meantime, we’re just enjoying the journey.

Estamos aqui!

Estamos aqui!

Estamos aqui! After more than 20 hours door-to-door, Helena, Zuca and I have arrived safely in our new country.  After a rough start to the trip with torrential rain in Newark, the rest of our journey was as smooth and easy as we could have hoped for. Oba!

Thank you for all of the happy greetings written here and on Facebook when we arrived. It feels so good to know that you’re there cheering us on.  I promised to take you along with me, so please enjoy these scenes from our first day. I’ve described each clip in detail so you can pick and choose what you’d like to see.

First, here’s the view of the Serra dos Orgaos mountains from the plane window as we’re descending into Rio de Janeiro.  You can just barely see the Finger of God, a very finger-like volcanic structure in the background.  Our dream is to live in these mountains one day:

Next, I decided to capture our experience waiting to get our dog Zuca cleared into the country. In order for Zuca to become a Brazilian citizen, prior to leaving for Brazil we had to get a USDA certificate of health, a physical examination by a US-certified vet, and stamped paperwork certifying all of his vaccinations. After all that bureaucracy in the US, here’s the official scene at the Office of Agriculture and Animals at the airport in Rio:

Here’s our first lunch in Rio, bought at a “kilo” restaurant.  Many Brazilians will visit kilos on their lunch hour because they provide beautiful buffets with salads, fresh squeezed juices, casseroles, rice and beans, sushi, churrasco (grilled meat) and lots of sobremesas (desserts). I put this clip in for those of you who were worried about how we’d do in the land of beef!

Tomorrow I’ll provide an update on our living accommodations in Rio, but for today, I thought you’d enjoy the view from our new neighborhood. We’re living about 2 blocks from the beach between Copacabana and Ipanema. If I had any reservations about having cancelled my life in the US to move to this country (which I didn’t really), they were over after drinking fresh agua de coco (coconut water/juice) on this bench:

Here’s one last scene from the neighborhood, just a typical little fruit market where we’ll buy local fruits. When I walked in this afternoon, I was hit with the smell of maracuja (passion fruit) and mamon (papaya). We bought bananinhas (there are at least 10 different kinds of bananas growing in this country!) and couve (kale) to make a fresh juice for our breakfast tomorrow morning.

It’s hot and delicious here in our new world. We’ve been looking at each other all day with tears in our eyes, continually repeating, “We did it!” And we did.

Amamos voces!

Tchau for now!

Tchau for now!
Tchau for now!

Here’s the deal:  moving out of the country is no joke. I’m beginning to think that I should have picked up the IDIOT’S GUIDE TO RELOCATION, and if there isn’t one out there already, I’m writing it on the plane to Rio. We’ve been making lists and crossing things off for so long now that our lists have grown lists. The lists have grown hands and feet and the feet have blisters and the blisters have called out for pizza.  This sh*t  is no joke.

Those of you who know and love us won’t be surprised to learn that our final 48 hours in the country were complete chaos, which is why I opted for my first video-blog:

This morning before leaving, we sent our last love letter to the IRS, gave Zuca a bath, packed up our winter coats and boots for semi-permanent storage, and decided that the airline is going to have to deal with EIGHT suitcases after all. Take that, Delta!

As I write this entry, I’m in a taxi-van driving on 95N in pouring rain toward the Newark airport and Helena and Zuca are passed out snoring next to me. Apparently, there’s a limit to the amount of stress they’re willing to stand.

I, on the other hand, am wide awake, waiting for it to feel real.

I just left my home of 15 years, the best friends I’ve ever known, a successful career, a beautiful house, and a community I love.  For what?  The want of adventure, maybe a chance to make my life something outside of predictable (as if it hasn’t been already!).

We’ve got enough money to get us by for 6-8 months and a few pretty interesting ideas. Other than that, it’s nothing but open road ahead.

Thanks for coming along for the ride.  Let’s hope it’s a good one.

Amo voce, Philadelphia!

Amo voce, Philadelphia!

Muita obrigada to all of our amazing friends who came to say goodbye last night. Many of you drove several hours to celebrate with us.  We are humbled and grateful and so thankful to the several hundred people who came to support Project Learn School and to express your good wishes and love to us as we embark on our new journey.

A special thanks to Jason Huber and the staff and students at Project Learn School for organizing such a delicious party, to our friend Anne Simoni and her band for providing such beautiful music, and to all of our friends for such a happy and loving send-off. 

Enjoy these scenes from the party late in the night: 

And these shots of the late-night crew, filmed sometime around 1:30 this morning: 

How I wish that I could have had another 5 hours like that with each of you personally.  Time is running out. 

Two more days.

The you that you are when you’re mostly you

The you that you are when you’re mostly you

I love that so many of you are writing to tell me your own blissful stories…like the woman who sold everything and moved to a fishing village off Vancouver Island. She wrote something that’s been rattling around in my head all morning, something about how she realized that she was working all year just to have enough time off to be able to go camping: “It’s sad when you only get to be who you are two weeks out of the year.”

I wrote back to ask her how the who she is when she’s camping differs from the other who she is.  Is it having a closer connection with nature? Time to think and look and be? How do you know when you’re really, truly, being you?

When Helena and I first met, just for fun, she asked me to complete a test that she administers to her clients for Cross-Cultural training. There were 25 multiple choice questions that ask everything from management/leadership style, employer-employee relations, individualism vs. group orientation, time orientation, task prioritization, and so on.  Based on your responses, the test sorts you into 1 of 40 countries where you’d best be suited for work and life.

Out of 40 possible countries, wanna  guess where I should be living, based on the way I most comfortably relate to others?  Eu sou Brasileira!

Maybe this explains why I’ve always felt a bit out of place in the American work environment.  I have a habit of wanting to be closer, more collaborative, a bit more familiar than seems comfortable for those around me.  In the land of havaianas and mango trees, will I finally be at home?

I was reflecting on this last night at dinner when this song came on.  For the first time in more than 2 years, I felt my brother’s presence there in the room, wondering and laughing right along with me.

Tonight, we’re co-hosting a big Brazilian bash at a bar in Germantown, and I’ll be surrounded by my American bee people. You know who you are.

3 more days.

Free is the new black

Free is the new black

How to tell this part of the story?

First, everything was against us. It was the worst housing slump in decades, and we’d owned our house for a little over 2 years. Friends told us that it could take us months, maybe even years to sell our home.  We chose to focus on the goal (breaking even) and after about 3 weeks of waiting through some sluggish activity, we took the advice of a friend and buried a statue of St. Joseph in our backyard.

Two hours later, the doorbell rang.  A realtor and our future buyers were standing at the door.  All in all, it took just 4 weeks to sell our home.

I expected to feel some regret or sadness about leaving, but when we closed the door the final time, it just felt right.  We walked through each room one last time, sharing a story or remembrance, thanking the four walls for carrying us through to this moment.  The voices of our friends and family rang through the halls in memory, echoing with the sound of laughter and music and home.

It was a good place.

I gave 5 weeks notice at work, which was enough time to wrap things up exactly as I’d intended.  In the end, my final business trip was cancelled by massive snowstorms, taking away even the pleasure of experiencing the very last time.  The finality I expected to feel on my last day of work was even missing. I received sweet good-bye notes from long-time colleagues, sent a few final emails, and then it was closing time.  A 20-year career:  blink.

As of this morning, I am officially homeless and unemployed.

Letting Go

Letting Go

This morning I’m packing for the second time in 3 months.  The first time was when we moved out of our home in Philadelphia in December. Now, I’m moving a few remaining items out of my temporary apartment in Boston. It’s the last step before our last stop.

It’s reminding me of the process we went through after deciding to let everything go. In a 4-month period, we held 3 yard sales and 2 house auctions. 

How to decide what to keep? What to purge? When you get down to the very basics, it’s amazing how little you find that you just can’t live without.  We condensed a 3,270 square foot house to a 7 cubic meter shipping container.

During the first yard sale, I admit to feeling a bit victimized. We advertised that the yard sale began at 8 am, and the Early Birds began circling at 6:45 am, asking questions like:

“Are you giving away any perfume?”

“Are you selling that porch furniture?”

“Do you have any old jewelry?”

It felt unbelievably invasive, at first, and then we just gave in and let it all go.  It was astonishing, really, the things people were interested in buying. They invited themselves into our home and looked in closets, peered in cupboards, and picked random items off the shelves:  “How much for this coffee cup??”

The best part was when our friends showed up to  buy our furniture just because they wanted something of ours to remember us by.  My antique church pew is warming a spot in front of a dear friend’s fire.  Our Adirondack chairs are now buried under snow in our friends’ Mt. Airy backyard, waiting for spring.  And my upright piano is “on loan” until whenever…I cried as it went out the door, knowing that it would be well loved.  My very favorite pieces are now cared for by some of the people I love the most.

This morning is the final push. Tomorrow, we’ll bring the remaining items back to Philadelphia. One more week to say our goodbyes, and then off to our new home.

9 more days.

Redefining Abundance

Redefining Abundance

It’s present tense and present day for the first time on this blog!

The present moment finds me “grounded” in a temporary apartment in Boston.  The entire east coast and much of the midwest is under more than 2 feet of snow, and my last business trip on the last week of my last job in the US (for the forseeable future) has been cancelled by American Airlines and the snowiest season on record. 

Now seems as good a time as any to reflect on a conversation that Helena and I had this morning.  We were talking over our budget for the next 6 months, and it occurred to me:  what if we budgeted from a different perspective this time? Rather than coming up with a list of our expenses and figuring out how to make ends meet, what if we tried the opposite approach?

Here’s what I mean:  in our future life, instead of working from a “deficit model,” what if we made a list of the experiences we’d like to have? Or the friends we’d like to see? Once food, water, and shelter are covered, what should be our new essentials? So far on our list:

  • Regular opportunities to see the world and learn from new experiences.
  • Enrollment in courses that will help us to grow on our life/soul paths.
  • The ability to visit friends and family whenever we want.
  • Enough extra to be able to donate at least 20% of our income to causes that matter.

That’s where we ran out of ideas. For us right now, I’m not sure there is anything else.

Any suggestions?

What would be in your budget of the future?

Raw Spirit

Raw Spirit

I’d be doing a disservice to my journey if I didn’t acknowledge one of the greatest influences in my transformation.  Those of you who’ve been a part of watching this very intense, somewhat unusual part of my total life makeover know that changing my diet has been nothing short of a miracle.

I debated about putting all of this part of my story “out there,” but given that I’m off to such a naked start, here goes (and for those of you who aren’t up for reading the full story feel free to skip to the bullet points at the end):

During the mid-2000’s, I ran a multi-site literacy initiative for a national organization that had me jetting between 17 cities. As is the mania of most non-profits, I lived under the pressure that the funding would eventually run out and it would all come to a crash. To keep myself moving, I lived on a diet of triple lattes, scones, chocolate, and a glass of red wine at night to calm myself down. It couldn’t last.

The Turning Point

It was just after Labor Day in 2007. One afternoon at the close of a particularly stressful meeting, my brain decided that it was time to check out. When I woke in an ambulance 25 minutes later, I was informed I’d had a prolonged grand mal seizure. When the EMTs asked me questions like how old I was, where I lived, and when and where I was born, I couldn’t provide the answers. It was terrifying.

It was a shocking and terrifying experience, especially for Helena—I was too scrambled to understand much of anything. After three days in the hospital, tests came back inconclusive. I was sent home with a list of instructions and a big bottle of anti-seizure medication. 

The medication left me dull, listless, and confused. As I slowly came to terms with what had happened to me, my brain lurched between feelings of helplessness and utter panic. I felt weighed down by the expectations of my funders, my advocacy work in DC, and the thousands of kids whose lives I felt unreasonably responsible for. What if I couldn’t keep up? It was unthinkable.

One afternoon as I lay limp on the couch, a large package arrived at the door. Inexplicably, it was full of about five cookbooks, along with a card from my friends at a partner organization. The card read: “We love you and want you to care for yourself as much as we do for you.”

Intrigued, I opened the most interesting looking one first—the cover had a photo of a cheery-looking woman sitting on top of a tomato. As I flipped through the pages of the books, I realized that I’d been sent a package full of raw food books.

Alissa Cohen's Raw Ravioli

Coincidentally, the raw food movement was something that Helena had been talking about for months and I had heard about through our friend Tiana who owned a raw food restaurant in Rio. Until then, I’d successfully resisted its flax-covered claws, writing raw food off as a kooky, extreme diet for granola-heads…definitely not for me. But page after page, I was taken in. By the time I’d finished reading the testimonials of people whose lives were transformed simply by eating fruits and vegetables, I was willing to be convinced. Anything had to feel better than where I was—all I could do was try.

Ever my twin flame, Helena leapt to the challenge.  The next morning she made an enormous pitcher of green smoothies—a surprisingly delicious concoction of bananas, green kale, ground flax seed, and coconut water. We drank it throughout that morning and every morning after that for the next two weeks.  Amazingly, the simple act of replacing my decade-long addiction to coffee and scones had lifted both my mood and more than 5 pounds off my rear in just two weeks.

Little by little, we replaced other meals with creative, colorful dishes packed full of vegetables that I’d rarely seen used in their natural form. A dinner of arugula, fennel, bok choy, and bright purple cabbage smothered in homemade carrot-ginger dressing left me feeling light and happy, energized and excited about the days ahead.

Eggplant Pizza

All the while, I was still bogged down by my anti-seizure medication, along with a monthly handful of Advil and the thyroid medication I’d been taking for 14 years. I had also been doing some research, trying to uncover the genesis of my seizures. I determined that I would not remain on this medication that had turned me into a zombie.

In my studies, I was shocked to discover that one of the side-effects of Synthroid—one of the most commonly prescribed medications for women—was seizures.

In my research about raw food, I continually came across testimonials of people who had cured diabetes, high blood pressure, psoriasis, heart disease, cancer and other “chronic” conditions simply by changing their diet. I determined that if I was going to make this change, I had to do it all the way.

Raw Power!

On January 1, 2008, Helena and I became 100% RAW.  We began the process by attacking the kitchen, tossing anything that wasn’t a fruit, vegetable, nut or seed into the trash. We knew that any form of temptation would make it too difficult, so out went the coffee, the secret chocolate stashes, cookies and crackers, milk, eggs and ice cream. We replaced the microwave with a food dehydrator and used the oven as storage for our new equipment.Then we went to Whole Foods and stocked the fridge with enough produce to feed a planet of ravenous guinea pigs for at least six months.

Here’s what happened:

  • In one week, my mood became what I came to describe as “unreasonably happy,” and I had more energy than I’d felt in years.
  • In two weeks, my skin (which had recently become prone to breakouts) was completely clear. My cheeks developed a rosy, healthy glow—noticeable enough that people actually began commenting on how different I looked.
  • In three weeks, I noticed that I only needed 5-6 hours of sleep a night. Each morning, I woke up refreshed and energetic.
  • In four weeks, I lost 10 pounds and fit back into jeans that I hadn’t worn in 5 years.
  • In six weeks, blood tests revealed that my thyroid had become active again, and my doctor reduced my medication.
  • In two months, the chronic menstrual cramps that I’d suffered through since the start of my menstrual cycle had virtually disappeared.
  • In three months, I lost another 10 pounds.
  • In four months, my hair became thicker and fuller, and I actually began losing grey hair.
  • In five months, I had lost a total of 30 pounds. Combined, Helena and I lost a total of 60 pounds.
  • In six months, a blood test revealed that I no longer needed thyroid medication. To my doctor’s amazement, my thyroid was functioning on its own. I discontinued all medication, including my seizure medication.

Raw Power!

After eight months of living clean and clear and full of more energy than we knew what to do with. I started publishing articles about raw/live food and Helena and I, along with Tiana, launched Viva Institute so that we could begin sharing our excitement with others. Helena and I began teaching classes on green smoothies out of our kitchen and we started a monthly raw food potluck party called Soulfood Sunday. It caught on, and we found ourselves surrounded by some of the most beautiful and generous people I’ve ever met. On weekends, we travelled across the country to participate in raw food conferences and events, even debuting Tiana as a “rising star” in the country’s premiere raw food culinary school’s “chef showcase.”

My transformation was all-encompassing and soul-deep. The only way to explain it is that by cleaning up my insides, I made room for a new version of me—a person whose company I greatly preferred to the anxious, over-achieving caffeine addict of the year before.  It granted me the belief that if I could so completely change my physical and emotional self, perhaps my life had possibilities that I had only just begun to discover.

I looked to the future with a heart full of hope.

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