People have written to ask me how we’ve been feeling since our visit to João de Deus (John of God).
Rested.
Peaceful.
Happy.
Also…
Surprised.
Before going to visit John of God, I truthfully had no expectations. The healing I requested was mostly spiritual: clarity about my path, peace with my journey, the ability to fall in love with each moment of my life.
Unlike John of God’s visible surgeries—tumors removed with a kitchen knife, eye surgery without anesthesia—I expected that the healing I asked for seemed like something that would be a gradual shift in mood or perspective. I didn’t think much about how it would be happen, and I accepted that I would need to continue to do my own work, as I always do: through meditation, by taking care of myself, and by continuing to talk to God.
- That’s why when the first dream came, I didn’t immediately put the pieces together. I woke up and thought, “Huh…that’s funny. I wonder why I dreamed about him?” And I went on with my day.
- On the second night I had an identical dream, only this time the first leading man was replaced by another Ex Who Shall Not Be Named. It was the exact same scenario: I walked into a white room with a table and two chairs, and suddenly I was sitting across from an ex. We talked (for a long time or a short time…I can’t recall), and though I can’t remember the details, I know that we both made apologies for things we’d said and done. It was a happy and even loving conversation. When it was over, we stood up, shook hands, hugged, and left through separate doors.
- On the third night, the dream appeared again. It was a different ex, and this time I remember that I did less apologizing and more forgiving. When it was over, we smiled, shook hands, and left the room.
- After the fourth dream, I finally admitted to myself that there was work being done on my heart. Something important was happening. These were conversations of the soul.
- On the fifth night, I received a surprise: it was an old college boyfriend, long forgotten, one whose heart I’d broken because I wouldn’t/couldn’t commit. (Huh…wonder why?!). Why did he show up? Even more surprising was that he brought along his wife and daughter. He showed me that he was happy and had forgiven me for never fully loving him back. His life was happy and full and complete. I waved goodbye to the cheerful group, and this dream closed the door on the Ghosts of Relationships Past.
Just like the unexpected visit from my brother while sitting in Current, I couldn’t have ever guessed that I needed to heal this part of myself. I know intuitively that I experienced a meeting of the soul—a healing of past hurts, things left unsaid, apologies that needed to be made. Although no actual words were spoken, not in person, a burden has been lifted.
I find myself wondering about the conversations still left to be had when it’s my time to “cross over.”
Last week, I gave a reading for a woman who wanted to connect with her husband who had recently died. It was remarkable how much he still had to say. During the reading, he offered his wife many gifts: beautiful images from his life, bars from their favorite songs, a request for her to visit one of their favorite places, and loving words of encouragement about her life ahead.
His greatest surprise?
The love lives on.



















